Don’t you find that just as you’ve reached the point of feeling good about yourself, someone comes along and it can only take a few short negative sentences from them to knock you right back down again?

Dealing with negative people can cause such stress and anxiety, I have even had clients who became physically sick at the very thought of having to go into meetings with negative bosses or team leaders. The same can happen in relationships and your life can become a prison, with your enthusiasm and creativity slowly being sucked dry. Until one day, you can’t remember what the reason was you used to get excited about….

In order to deal with negative people, you first have to ‘deal’ with yourself! Oh great so now you get the blame again! No!, understand there is no blame, no guilt, there is only experience. It is by opening up your awareness to what is going on energetically, that you will create a solid foundation in yourself which will cause the changes in your experiences, as everything that comes into your experience does so from the frequency you resonate out. So only you can make the changes that will ensure you do not attract negative people to you.

Let me break it down and help you understand what is really going on. In any encounter with some one negative, there are always several layers to look at.

Them: Anyone who comes to you in criticisms, being picky, in condemnation or derision does so from an energetic place of lack. All negative emotions correlate directly with low frequency and the reason for this is that the person holds no value to their worth, they have not aligned with loving themselves and this lack of self worth causes them to reflect the same onto others as a means of control, in a way to justify their existence.

Why would they react this way? You need to go back to the beginning for this. We are energy living life experiences through these physical bodies, as energy we are naturally in the highest frequencies, polarity only exist in the physical realm. As we enter the physical medium, this by nature is a denser form of energy (any dense medium exists through lower frequency) so immediately we are moved out of alignment with our energy essence. Being consciously aware of this allows us to move back into higher frequency through self realisation, self love and honouring our worth. However when we are unconscious of this fact we, by the nature of low frequency will hold low self worth and will perpetuate staying in and moving lower in frequency. From this place when your energy essence feels higher frequency in others, it is drawn to it, like a moth to a flame, the physical body remains in lower frequency and it is this void that produces the feelings of jealously, frustration and fear.

You: Any encounter with someone who is negative is not only reflecting how they see themselves, it is also an indicator of where your own frequency currently is. Energetically you will always attract to you experiences, opportunities and people who come from the same frequency you are resonating out. So when you are evidencing negative people in your experience, you need to then look to yourself.

Are you honouring your worth?

Have you spent time finding the love for you within you?

Any lack of confidence is an indicator of lower frequency, so it is not the case of ‘dealing’ with negative people it is actually all about doing the work on yourself first.

All change externally happens first from within. When you are honouring your value and worth, when you love the amazing, magnificent being you are, fully and completely, then you naturally move into higher frequency. Energy will then attract to you experiences, opportunities and people who resonate from the same frequency. Try it out, you will be amazed!