~~ Extract from my book ’Attracting Your Perfect Partner’ ~~
Listening plays such an important role when it comes to relationships.
There are quite a number of people who only hear what others say but fail to listen and hence they either end up with the wrong partner or mess up things with their perfect partner by focusing on their own needs and not understanding their partner.
The majority of the time we all are in a hurry to put our point across first and in this process we simply resist listening to what the other person is saying. If you are looking out for a great relationship and wish to retain a perfect partner, you need to master the art of listening, as this will help you understand your partner better.
First, do not be in a hurry to look out for a partner and do not see your future spouse in every person that you meet. Try and get to know people before you would like to go on a date with them. If you like someone, try and get to know more about them. Spend some quality time with them, talk to them! Listen to every word and sentence they say. This will certainly help you understand their true personality. There is a huge difference between hearing and listening and only listening can help you see the true side of any person.
Well, how do you learn to listen?
To become a better listener, you need to treat people as you would wish to be treated. You wouldn’t desire to be interrupted when speaking? You desire that what you are saying is being listened to and taken in?
Learn to concentrate and don’t let your mind wander. To help yourself listen better to your date,you can choose a quite place where there are not many distractions. This will help you concentrate and listen to your date better, which will let you see if he or she shares your common interests. Ever so often people complain about having the wrong partner, however, lest we forget, it was our choice that attracted them in the first place. Problems start when communication breaks down, if you would have listened, the differences that may have now compounded, could have been dealt with easily and effortlessly. Thus, in order to find the perfect partner, listening plays an important role and one must certainly practice it.
Listening is one of the key ingredients of a successful relationship and we all need to master this art. When you find partners or dates on dating sites, you need to learn to read between the lines so you can judge what kind of person you are chatting with.
Later, when you speak over the phone, you can practice listening and get to know him or her better. Attracting your perfect partner becomes a lot easier when you stop hearing and start listening.
Having under stood the importance of listening,let’s all follow it. Take a deep breath and tell yourself that from now on, you would not react,but listen. Tell yourself that you would not interrupt the other person while talking and not be in a hurry to put across your point.
Listen and let your energy help you attract your perfect partner for life.