Changing the circumstances of your life, when seemingly presented with constant struggle, will take becoming a peaceful warrior. It is about holding strong to your values and not letting others influence or compromise them.
This was the place I found myself many years ago, on my own with 4 small children, the youngest being a year old. Having extricated myself from a physically and mentally abusive marriage as terrifying as it was being on my own, it was heaven compared to what I had been subjected to.
Nether the less here I was, with no money, no career and no qualifications (I was still reacting to the conditioning at this point). Not to mention no self-esteem or self-confidence, a pretty challenging place to be, you would agree?
How then did I change all this? What was the motivating factor to overcome all the perceived obstacles? Well it all came back to my values, these were the values that those who had controlled me, tried so hard to quash in me but never could.
You see I came from warriors; my family name went back to the 10th Century in Ireland, in fact a noble lineage of Kings and Queens of Munster.
I knew nothing of this growing up, as my mother had always told me ‘never mention you are Irish’ and had even put me through 4 years of elocution lessons to kill any Irish accent I had, as this was the time of bombing in England by the IRA and if you had an Irish accent, then you must be a bomber or related to them! So I was oblivious to the noble history I came from.
Yet I always lived by honour, honesty and integrity, I could not live any other way and it was these values that my then husband did his best to humiliate out of me. They became battered, pummeled and weakened to almost breaking but I held on.
Faced with bringing up my children on my own, I saw two options. The first, give up, do nothing, move into council accommodation and watch my children grow into delinquents roaming the streets or far worse.
The second option was to pick up my sword, to tap into my values and fight. Not as in physical battles (although dealing with my ex was very reminiscent of this!) but finding my strength through nurturing back to health my values.
I realized then, that no one would ever be able to take these from me, even though they tried to break me, they could not break my values. In building a life for my children and myself, I went on a journey of experiences; I stumbled along my path many times but always got back up, put myself into the mindset of my ancestors. When they had been faced with battle, no matter how terrified they may have been, did they turn round and leave? NO! They held true to their values and fought.
I learned through my evolvement that violence was never the answer and began to understand the importance of maintaining my values as a peaceful warrior. Combining honour, honesty and integrity with focus, persistence and a definiteness of purpose to each of my desires and the work it took to change my beliefs.
This is the crucial step in your life transformation, holding strong to your values, honouring your self worth and having complete belief in your ability to create not only your reality, to consciously create your abundance.