I know, for a very long time, hearing words like this would have confused me. Having lived through very controlling relationships and bringing up my 4 children on my own, I could not get out of the cycle of stress, worry and loneliness.
Every day seemed like a mountain to climb, the urge to stay in bed and hope it would all go away was overwhelming. I also know that there are many people who are still living in these cycles today, I am contacted daily by those in a desperate need of advice and guidance and I will share with you what I share with them.

This perception of reality can be blinding when you live in fear, whether that be fear of what others think of you, the lack of value you place in your self worth or the lack of confidence to break free.
When you begin to look at the logical facts that support these ‘cycles’ and the physiological effects they have on you, then you can see how important it is to be in control of your experiences, to consciously create what is going to show up in your life.
Yes, you can control or to be more precise, create every experience that comes to you. In fact this is happening all the time and when you have experiences you do not desire, this is down to unconscious creating or living in reaction.

You hold in your focus what you believe to be true, often this is a false perception stemming from the self doubt you harbour inside. Many years ago I was convinced I was useless, stupid and destined to be alone because that is what had been drilled into me. Left bringing up 4 small children I was scared out of my wits, I would be ‘useless’ at it, on top of that having to make a career with no qualifications or experience, might explain the urge to stay in bed and hide!

It is about finding the Warrior within, that part of you that holds all your natural courage, persistence and focus. When you understand that your beliefs dictate the frequency with which your cells resonate, what you resonate is what you will attract back, like attracts like and from a perception of things going wrong, you must move your focus onto seeing, believing and more importantly feeling every experience is going right.
Much of this ability comes when you have a rock solid foundation of belief, love and respect in yourself. From here you grow confidence to be persistent in the pursuit of your passions, to focus on your desires, to take your focus off what others think and say about you. You will hold a definiteness of purpose in consciously creating every new experience and opportunity.

This takes courage and strength to maintain consistently and the benefits are… you increasingly raise the vibratory resonance of your cells as they take the signal of your new beliefs. When you then find your points of appreciation in your day to day experiences, you are consciously aware of your emotional scale and assuring your vibration does not move into low frequency.
What happens is you then begin to attract experiences and opportunities from the higher vibratory resonance, a new ‘cycle’ is in place, this time it is one that fully supports your abundance. From here you begin to live in the moment, appreciating, loving life and living the life you absolutely love!