Many people make decisions based on influence from external forces.
These decisions then come from other people’s experience, not your own
Listen from within, not without
Your energy essence is always communicating to bring you into total abundance
When you make your decisions based on the influence of Universe energy
You create your experiences…you are one and the same energy.

How often have you done something because everyone expected you to or it is what generations of your family did, so of course you will have to do it too, only to find out it makes you miserable, stressed or worse depressed?
Once you understand the energetic nature of how this physical Universe exists you begin to understand why the process of keeping others happy puts you in such a low place. The same can also be true for being pressured into going to a certain University and degree or going to a particular apprenticeship, factory, family business or career.
We as energy beings (which we are first and foremost) are in these unique bodies to have unique life experiences, individual and only ours. So anytime you are living at the behest or pressure from others, you are actually living out their life experiences, foregoing your own experiences. Now this falls into two categories, what is happening from those controlling your experiences and what is happening to you in the way you feel about these experiences.
Any form of pressure or control comes from a place of lack, that is, the controller holds self limiting beliefs or lack of confidence (possibly through this cycle of generational or social conditioning). They are frustrated in their own lack of experiences and lash out when they see that dynamic spark in others, who would choose to spread their wings and they use control either in abuse or in dictating how the other party will live their lives. This is because they are always resonating from low vibrational energy, which is completely incongruent with their energy, which is naturally in high vibrational resonance; they feel disconnected, out of sorts, stressed and so on.
Now the conditioning or control can only happen if you let it and generations have just let it happen, thinking there was no other choice. When you begin to understand energetic communication, you begin to get clarity on making your own choices. Your experiences are there to bring you joy, happiness and a full sense of abundance, if you are in the process of consciously creating them. By letting others control what your experiences are, now moves you into a lower vibrational resonance matching those who would control and attracting more of the same vibration to you.
Your emotional guidance system plays a key part in identifying if you have moved into the lower vibrations, you will always know this by how you feel and it is once you learn to read your energy through your emotions that you can consciously change your environment by turning your focus to what makes you feel at your best and then living for your desires and not others.